Always wear your Invisible Crown

 

What exactly is an invisible crown and how do you get one? Well, if you have to ask—maybe you’re already dethroned.  

Just Kidding.

Lately, I have been living life as though I'm wearing an invisible crown (read: not diva). I have been carrying myself with strength, self-respect, respect to others, and dignity. I haven’t been rude, yelled, or acted in a nasty in any way. 

I know I used to not be a very nice person, I would get angry pretty often and be straight out rude to everyone--strangers, friends, my loved ones. Finally, I realized why am I so angry? 

There are many things I didn't let go. I thought I couldn't let go. I had high anxiety that I could not release. One day, when I was first learning about Zen Buddhism I realized tomorrow may not come. Would I want to look back and think "why did I let these small things make my life horrible"? The next morning I woke up and decided I was going to forgive and learn from these life experiences. My anxiety is in a forever hibernation. 

I have realized how much stress has gone away now that I'm nice to people, my voice is higher and I am friendly to everyone. It makes me happy when I make others happy that I don't even know. I am sincere and courteous to everyone I come in contact with. My life has been much better now that I keep my heart free from hate and worry.

Another aspect of wearing an invisible crown, one must remember to smile—even if the day hasn’t gone so well. Sometimes people feel stuck in a rut—they go through the motions and don’t really enjoy life. I know that I have a demanding work life and I used to have hardly any “me” time.

Usually the only me time I would have consisted of watching old episodes of The Office while my brain started to form into the consistency of bread pudding. Watching TV to me isn’t really a break, you’re not really focusing on you or relaxing.

I think that it’s important for everyone to celebrate themselves, in some sort of way, every day.

I have recently started my own positive thinking mindset and “celebrate” myself. It has helped tremendously in my very stressful job. When I get home, I usually try to do something for myself, which makes me feel better.

Some examples of (healthy) celebratory things I’ve accomplished lately:

                Dance around in Hello Kitty Socks

                Give myself a facial, with Kate Somerville glorious products

                Make cute designs on my finger nails

                Drink out of my special Batman Cup

                Have a small glass of Moscato

               

A few of the things above take maybe 10 minutes, but it works for me. I go to bed at nice and have peaceful dreams and wake up—attempting to conquer the world (in a courteous fashion, of course!)